Ladies, what went wrong? Today we are celebrating the International Women’s Day but how often do you allow yourself to be a Woman? Simply a woman. How often do you allow yourself that luxury while catching your breath between stepping in the shoes of a wife, a housewife, a mother, a professional, a business lady, an employee, an entrepreneur, a teacher, a friend and so on. While multitasking and swapping hats between your numerous roles do you find a window to connect to your inner spirituality and be yourself? I don’t. At least most of the time.
“A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.” (Diane Mariechild) Bun only when the woman is collected within herself instead of running in thousand directions. Only when she is connected to her inner source and thus to the Universe. Are you?
Ladies, what went wrong? Why did we trade off our femininity for feminism? Why did we neglect our warmness and softness and became hard and unyielding copying men?
In the old times before the Bible ancient people treated women as goddess, worshiped them for what they are – a source of life, reincarnation of the Mother Goddess. Christianity changed that perception. It blamed the Original Sin on women, condemned their female powers and qualities, and positioned them inferior to men. Ever since women have lived with suppressed sexuality, hurt deep in the core, outraged and confused.
Years and years of suppression gave birth to a rise that burst out in feminism – a movement trying to prove women equal to men, as good as men, alike men. But feminism only made things worse because in striving to be what we are not, we forget what we actually are.
The modern woman has achieved more than all generations of women coming before us, and yet we feel more frustrated and insecure than ever. Simply because we are trying to do all and we do not allow ourselves to do it less than perfectly. House chores, career, taking care of the kids, making money, being a loving and supportive wife, going to the gym, fighting aging, being social, getting “likes” on Facebook, pacing up with technical novelties, traveling, shoping – do you have all that on your plate?
Ladies, what went wrong? A woman should flow down through life as a river instead of climbing uphill as a trail. We do not need to prove we are equal to men because we are not. We do not need to be. The moon does not equal the sun – they are just different. We do not need to prove that we are as good as men. We need to find out how to be better as women!
Ladies, what went wrong? And how to fix it? I’ve been trying for quite a time to restore my femininity, trying to connect to my inner self, finding the way back to the gushing source of womanhood. But I am especially eager to do it now since a month and a half ago I gave birth to a lovely daughter. And it is my truest desire to set a good example to her, to teach her into female powers and secrets, in crafts and knowledge, in the essence of being a woman.
In my return to true femininity I am searching for insights deep inside of me, in books and bosom talks with my girl-friends. I realize that it might take generations to fully recover the lost femininity but each long journey starts with a step. And I feel that I am not making this step alone. Many of you who read this are getting the same road. That connects us. That makes us powerful.
Today we celebrate the International Women’s Day. Let me treat you with some food for the mind and these lovely raw coconut truffles. It always helps to have something sweet when thoughts become too serious.
And before I leave with the recipe I will share with you my top 5 books on femininity. Would you tell me which are yours?
1. Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés
2. Secrets and Mysteries, The Glory and Pleasure of Being a Woman by Denise Linn
3.The Power of Being a Woman by Michelle McKinney Hammond
4. The Source of Women’s Power by Larisa Renar
5. The Mists of Avalon by Marion Zimmer Bradley
Raw Coconut Truffels
- 1 cup coconut shreds
- 2 tbs honey
- 2 tbs coconut butter, melted
- 100 gm raw chocolate
- 12-14 raw pistachio nuts (optional)
Mix together the honey and the coconut butter. Pour the mixture over the coconut shreds and mix well. Place the dough in the fridge for 10-15 min to get firm but not over-firm.
Take out of the fridge and form balls with the size of a small walnut. You may place a pistachio nut in the center of each ball. Put back in the fridge for another 10-15 minutes.
In the meantime gently warm the chocolate to melt it. Take the truffles and coat each one in chocolate. Arrange over non-stick baking paper and put in the fridge for the coating to get firm.